Sean was my son and a truly gifted man. There is no glory in his death, only tragedy that he died long before his time. If his death prevents one person from participating in this extreme sport perhaps he will not have died for nothing. He left behind a young wife, his parents, a sister, 2 nieces, a nephew and a multitude of friends and co-workers. We miss him beyond measure and will grieve for him the rest of our lives.

We fully understand your grief MomB...

I met Sean in 2010 in Italy..... with love in his heart and a true adventurers spirit

We, as a community of pioneering adventurers, who choose not to 'tip-toe' thru life just to arrive safely at death, embrace the philosophy that quality of life far outweighs quantity.
If you can accept that Sean truly lived his dream and died doing what he enjoyed then your heart will smile again...... if and when you can accept that, you'll find peace and also the pride that comes with knowing that your son had a pioneering spirit that only touches a few lucky humans in this life we lead.

Peace n love

Nick xox .... :)

[QUOTE=Base1268;108633]We fully understand your grief MomB...

I met Sean in 2010 in Italy..... with love in his heart and a true adventurers spirit

We, as a community of pioneering adventurers, who choose not to 'tip-toe' thru life just to arrive safely at death, embrace the philosophy that quality of life far outweighs quantity.
If you can accept that Sean truly lived his dream and died doing what he enjoyed then your heart will smile again...... if and when you can accept that, you'll find peace and also the pride that comes with knowing that your son had a pioneering spirit that only touches a few lucky humans in this life we lead.

Peace n love

Nick xox .... :)[/QUOTE]

Well, Nick, I don't think you understand the pain and grief Sean's death has left us with. I think if he could do it all again knowing the outcome he would not have BASE jumped. His pioneering spirit would have led him to other, just as gratifying, pursuits. No one thinks they are going to die. Sean had many important things to accomplish in his life that are left undone. I know you all think there is glory in living on the edge and dying young but there is not. To have his body crushed on impact, every bone broken and shattered was not a glorious way to die. To have his incredible mind and brain silenced by being slammed against unforgivable granite is not glorious. There is no more glory in dying this way than there is in driving fast and crashing into a bridge abutment. The outcome is the same. I am, and always have been, incredibly proud of my son and all he accomplished in his life. But my heart will never smile again because he is dead and I will never see him, hug him, laugh with him, or hear his voice ever again. That is the reality we are left with. Think about that the next time you are poised on the edge of a cliff, ready to jump off thinking you can fly and beat the odds one more time.

[QUOTE=MomB;108720]Well, Nick, I don't think you understand the pain and grief Sean's death has left us with. I think if he could do it all again knowing the outcome he would not have BASE jumped. His pioneering spirit would have led him to other, just as gratifying, pursuits. No one thinks they are going to die. Sean had many important things to accomplish in his life that are left undone. I know you all think there is glory in living on the edge and dying young but there is not. To have his body crushed on impact, every bone broken and shattered was not a glorious way to die. To have his incredible mind and brain silenced by being slammed against unforgivable granite is not glorious. There is no more glory in dying this way than there is in driving fast and crashing into a bridge abutment. The outcome is the same. I am, and always have been, incredibly proud of my son and all he accomplished in his life. But my heart will never smile again because he is dead and I will never see him, hug him, laugh with him, or hear his voice ever again. That is the reality we are left with. Think about that the next time you are poised on the edge of a cliff, ready to jump off thinking you can fly and beat the odds one more time.[/QUOTE]

I do understand your pain and grief... but I have a different perspective on life and I accept death of all people very easily without any grief whatsoever because I only ever see the beauty in life. I choose never to dwell on what might have been... for it achieves nothing but grief.... I simply accept.

I'm not in any way being rude by saying this Mom... but those things you say were important for Sean to accomplish that are left undone are things YOU wanted him to do. That is a common trait of many parents... they want their children to live the lives that they would like them to live instead of simply allowing them to follow their dream... utterly regardless of what that is.

Sean would want you to be proud of his achievements... whatever they were.... and simply reflect on the time you did have together in this life rather than be angry that he's gone physically. Don't forget he can always live in your memory if you choose to allow that to happen.

Therein lies peace for you.... and I hope you find it as soon as you can with every sincere molecule within me.

Within every state of sadness also lies a key to find the happy and harmonious state of mind we treasure.... look in the right place and you will find the key.

Nick, having met Sean once, I daresay that you did not know him as well as you profess. Having known him for over 35 years, I think I knew him a bit better than you did. His goals were not mine, they were his. I doubt if you knew of the work he did for our country, work that was very important to him and that he was proud of. I doubt if you knew of his personal goals that were very important to him. I doubt that you knew of his joy for life. I doubt that you knew of his love for his family. I mourn the loss of my son, but the world mourns the loss of this amazing man.

You appear to know nothing of grief or loss and for that you should be grateful. I hope you never will.

I will leave you to your illusions that dying is more glorious than living. Sean is number 195. When I read that you are a number I will grieve for you and for your mother. Be careful.

[QUOTE=MomB;108722]Nick, having met Sean once, I daresay that you did not know him as well as you profess. Having known him for over 35 years, I think I knew him a bit better than you did. His goals were not mine, they were his. I doubt if you knew of the work he did for our country, work that was very important to him and that he was proud of. I doubt if you knew of his personal goals that were very important to him. I doubt that you knew of his joy for life. I doubt that you knew of his love for his family. I mourn the loss of my son, but the world mourns the loss of this amazing man.

You appear to know nothing of grief or loss and for that you should be grateful. I hope you never will.

I will leave you to your illusions that dying is more glorious than living. Sean is number 195. When I read that you are a number I will grieve for you and for your mother. Be careful.[/QUOTE]

I don't profess to have 'truly 'known' Sean.... surely we never truly know anyone... even ourselves....??

What was obviously important to Sean was doing what he chose to do... not forced to do it by anyone else.... his choice.... and he knew that choosing to enjoy the experience of wonderful freedom that comes with unpowered flight... as is the case with wingsuit BASE jumping... carries far greater risk of death and injury than some other experiences in life.

Surely we must always accept what other people choose to do.... for that is allowing them to truly be themselves.

Death is an integral part of life..... every single one of us is on a path toward it from the moment we are born... the amount of time we spend alive is irrelevant... what matters surely is that we get to experience pure joy in our lives and we each should pursue that in whatever way works for us individually.

I'm not in this world to live up to anyone's expectations but my own... because then I'm being as close to my true self as possible and I believe Sean embraced this philosophy aswell.... as do all adventurers.

I wish you didn't feel the pain you do and only offer my words to hopefully give you the perspective that will free you from that pain.... but like everyone we are all unique with different experiences that makes us individual and you will see things the way you choose to.

There are 7 billion worlds on this rock.... and counting

Embrace the pure joy that your son brought to your life and celebrate every smile he brought to your heart.

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I originally posted on this forum so people reading about Sean would know that he was so much more than BASE jumping fatality number 195. I did not ask for, nor did I want, to read an arrogant half-assed philosophy on dying. I do not need to be told that I should rejoice that my son is dead because [I]he died while having fun, so it's all good[/I]. I do not need to be lectured on letting him go nor do I need any opinions on how he was raised. It's all well and good to be a free thinker, but common sense is needed to go along with free thinking. Such insensitive and stupid remarks are neither cute nor clever.

Then this was the wrong place for you to post....... because everyone who comes here are BASE jumpers or those who are looking to begin their own journey and seek advise and learning.

The BASE fatality list is a tool to assist everyone else to make choices that incorporate the understanding and learning that comes from those who have died doing what we choose to do.

You have blindly twisted what I have said because it doesn't fit with your way of thinking when in fact it was said with genuine concern that your perspective is causing you pain... I think maybe you might be better off posting on a 'grief forum' instead of looking to blame the rest of us in the BASE community for your son's death by putting us down and suggesting that we will all die.

In an earlier post you suggested 'WHEN' you read that I'm a number instead of 'IF'... and that is presumption suggestive that ALL will die pursuing our BASE journey.... we'll forgive you that because grief tends to cause people to say things without proper consideration.

Time for you to leave our environment because you will only get the same glimpse from anyone else here into a world you don't wish to accept.

We acknowledge the pain of loss can often be severely felt and sincerely wish your pain subsides sooner rather than later.

BASE jumping is a totally selfish endeavour......... it can't be any other way.

Wow, way to be a complete fucking dick. How about "Sorry for your loss. Sean was a great guy!"? Do you honestly think Sean would want you giving his mother, or any of his family/friends shit on the internet? You are quite possibly the biggest dick on the internet.

[QUOTE=Base1268;108737]Then this was the wrong place for you to post....... because everyone who comes here are BASE jumpers or those who are looking to begin their own journey and seek advise and learning.

The BASE fatality list is a tool to assist everyone else to make choices that incorporate the understanding and learning that comes from those who have died doing what we choose to do.

You have blindly twisted what I have said because it doesn't fit with your way of thinking when in fact it was said with genuine concern that your perspective is causing you pain... I think maybe you might be better off posting on a 'grief forum' instead of looking to blame the rest of us in the BASE community for your son's death by putting us down and suggesting that we will all die.

In an earlier post you suggested 'WHEN' you read that I'm a number instead of 'IF'... and that is presumption suggestive that ALL will die pursuing our BASE journey.... we'll forgive you that because grief tends to cause people to say things without proper consideration.

Time for you to leave our environment because you will only get the same glimpse from anyone else here into a world you don't wish to accept.

We acknowledge the pain of loss can often be severely felt and sincerely wish your pain subsides sooner rather than later.

BASE jumping is a totally selfish endeavour......... it can't be any other way.[/QUOTE]